No Take Backs

No take backs. This phrase has been floating around in my head for a few days without me really knowing why. I knew I would write something from it, I just wasn’t sure what.

This morning, it came to me.

Our life requires action for forward movement. At the very basic level of things, this is Newton’s first law. An object at rest will stay at rest. An object in motion will remain in motion. Only with force can either state be changed. So, we must be active in our lives to survive, to progress, to interact, to do anything other than exist. The problem with making a decision to act is that there are no take backs. An object set into motion can be halted, but even if moved back to the starting point, it won’t be the same.

I’ll explain.

Let’s say you nudge a ball to roll across a tabletop. You follow it to the other end, stop it, pick it up, then take it back to the beginning. Even if you have a marker on the table and the ball to line up EXACTLY where and how the ball was positioned initially, it is transformed: it has taken a journey, picked up bacteria and dust particles while traveling, and it has a new tale to tell, what it experienced along the way. Though we can stop the movement, though we can reset it, we cannot take it back.

I think of this with the plethora of human interactions I have had lately. I had a bit of a panic last night when I realized there are some people out there, now, who are listening to what I say, and it scared the hell out of me. I don’t know why this thought intimidated me so much, but I am sure it has something to do with a fear of failure and disappointment. I have always taken it very personally when I disappoint someone.

I digress.

The point is, in this world, there really are no take backs. The things you post, the comments you share, the choices you make, it’s all out there for good, and in this modern world, there is almost always someone watching. You NEVER know who’s life you might change today or tomorrow.

Though I am far from perfect, I try my hardest to remember this in my day-to-day while I move along my own path. Sometimes, all it takes is showing up to make someone’s whole day better. Sometimes, just a few snide words can crush someone’s confidence. I don’t see a point in putting more negativity into the world, and, unless you are a villain, I am sure you don’t either. Sometimes, we can do this without meaning to, when we are having a trying day and forget ourselves. All we can do is strive to be a little more aware of our impact and try our best to illuminate other’s days instead of darken them.

These are my rambles for today. If you are still with me, thank you. I hope you have a great week.

As always, with love,



2 thoughts on “No Take Backs

  1. Nope, no take backs. I think too many people treat life life a video game nowadays where there’s a reset button to start over and undo all consequences. Doesn’t work that way. The best you can ask for forgiveness, but that’s rarely genuinely given nowadays it seems.

    All I would add to your post is that ‘no take backs’ can’t keep us from being our genuine self either. However, I think we owe it to both ourselves and others to be the best part of our genuine self that we can..

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  2. Interesting, very interesting. I was having this thought last night as I did the live broadcast. I was thinking my God Matt don’t blow it and be to big of an idiot. It is a fear that I have had my whole life. My dad would alway’s yell at me to speak before I think not because I would say something mean or negative, but because he was afraid of me making him look stupid.

    So no take backs, right. I believe that we must be intentional with our actions and our words. That it is crucial that we don’t speak poorly or act poorly because of a lack of thought. However, I do not believe we should stop living our most authentic lives. I know for me that walking into a room that I am not a perfect person and I may make mistakes. That doesnt mean that I should allow myself to act like a complete moron and treat people poorly it only means that if I act in a way of love and tolerance and I still make mistakes then I can forgive myself for being human.

    Great writing as always.
    Thanks WB

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